How does Glenhaven build trust with teens?
There is only one way to build healthy trust: you must be trustworthy.
As one of our core values, Glenhaven demonstrates Trustworthy Care by consistently doing what is right and needed. This can be as simple as providing a healthy meal every day. It can also be as difficult as responding in love, even to negative behaviors.
Think of how God provides for our every need, even as He does for the birds of the air! Consider how while we were yet sinners, He gave His life for us! Truly, there is none more trustworthy than our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. May we reflect this in our own relationships!
A man asked me recently, “but what about discipline?” Given the tone of his question, I believe he was actually seeking a place for punishment or wrath for the disobedience of youth. A cursory read of Scripture will show that wrath and punishment are certainly valid; however, they are certainly reserved by God. And praise God for His patience, demonstrated in Ephesians 2:1-10, and worthy of quoting at length:
“And you were dead in the trespasses and sins in which you once walked, following the course of this world, following the prince of the power of the air, the spirit that is now at work in the sons of disobedience—among whom we all once lived in the passions of our flesh, carrying out the desires of the body and the mind, and were by nature children of wrath, like the rest of mankind. But God, being rich in mercy, because of the great love with which he loved us, even when we were dead in our trespasses, made us alive together with Christ—by grace you have been saved— and raised us up with him and seated us with him in the heavenly places in Christ Jesus, so that in the coming ages he might show the immeasurable riches of his grace in kindness toward us in Christ Jesus. For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast. For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.” [ESV]
Discipline is absolutely necessary, but wholly separate from wrath or punishment. In fact, discipline is from the same root word as “disciple”. It is a corrective course of action that results in following a trusted guide. Just like following Jesus, trust is key.
Our commission and the heart of Glenhaven is to make disciples of Jesus Christ. First, we must be disciples, or followers of Jesus who are growing in our application of His Word, deepening our dependence on Him, and overflowing His grace to others. As we prove ourselves trustworthy, we can invite others to follow us as we follow Him.
For children and families who have endured severely broken relationships, learning to trust others can be a long process. They must see through us that no one is more trustworthy than our Savior Jesus Christ. Would you pray that we would proclaim Jesus with bold words and trustworthy actions? Pray also for open hearts among the children and families we serve, as well as the communities that support us.